Welcome to my World

This is a brand new site. I bought the URL on 8 August 06 and started working on it that night. I was divorced in 2005, separated in 2004, sleeping on the couch in about 2002 or 2003 I think.

I found the divorce process to be very timely. Too timely. It shouldn't take a year. It was very illogical. If I was the one that worked and bought everything, why did I have to pay her to get my stuff back? Why is it a given (pretty much) that the women get the kids? What would I have done differently if I had planned for it a little bit?

These are just a few things to explore here as I get it up and running. Your input will be welcome and may even be posted.



First off...


Requiring Petitioner and Respondent to provide documents in a timely manner:
As I said my ex didn't provide documents in a timely manner even after being directed by the court. There has to be some fast way to get a sanction against attorneys or the subject themselves for failure to provide documents. It should be a fine imposed by the court of at least $100 per day of delinquency. Her failure to provide documents in a timely manner caused me to spend more than the necessary amount of time in getting my documents done. It also caused my attorney to levy fees for his time and requests for information against me for her failure to act. During an interim hearing her attorney apologized for that and offered to pay for any fees my attorney charged me for their delay. That was not sufficient. Not only do I not know if he paid my attorney for those fees, it doesn't alleviate the extra time and stress it caused me waiting for her to file her paperwork.


Use of children for tax exemptions:
If the custodial parent does not work for whatever reason, the noncustodial parent should be the one entitled to use the children for tax exemption purpose. Reasoning: The noncustodial parent must have provided more than 50% of the children's support. If the custodial parent cannot claim personal income of an amount equal to twice the amount of support provided by the noncustodial parent there is no way the custodial parent can have provided half of the children's support for the year. Therefore the children were dependents of the noncustodial parent and not the custodial parent.

I'll be adding links to these points as I explore them more.
 

Second off...

Attribution of income to parents when computing support:
If either parent does not work for whatever reason, when a computation for support is made, the parents income has to be figured using either current income or income attributable to what the parent is capable of making whichever is greater. Reasoning: Many parents, custodial and noncustodial, stop working, get lower paying jobs, start working for cash or find other creative ways to make the court system think their income should lead to higher or lower support. This causes support to be skewed one way or the other in one of the parents favor but not in favor of the children. If a custodial parent chooses not to work, they need to be attributed at the amount they COULD make if they did, not at the local minimum wage. This will cause that parent to more than likely get a job and get off assistance roles. The amount of support will be less but the children will be better off. Example: If the custodial parent is a Registered Nurse, the amount of attributed income should be equal to the amount that person would make if they were employed Likewise, if the noncustodial parent chose not to work, they should be attributed income comparable to what they had made in the past. This will raise support amounts and cause that parent to get a job and the children will be better taken care of. Of course, allowances will have to be made if there is a bonafide reason the parent does not work, however, this should be limited to serious reasons such as disabilities and well documented such as by receipt of social security disability income or workers compensation.

 

Time it takes to get through the court system:
I was separated at the end of June 2004. I wasn’t divorced until the beginning of June 2005. I provided all needed documentation through my attorney to the court as required in all orders from the judge. My exwife did not provide her information in a timely manner. At the first hearing she didn’t provide anything. This pushed the next date down the road a ways. At this hearing, she was compelled by the judge to provide her financials by a certain date and was given extensions to do so by my attorney and still did not provide the information by the time we were preparing for the final hearing. When the final hearing was scheduled in February 2005, we were scheduled for a hearing the same time as another couple, in hopes that they would go quick or settle. The next available date wasn’t until October, except for one day in July when everyone would have been on vacation. I work for the government. If I couldn’t accomplish my mission for 11 months, I would ask for help. I would have congressman breathing down my neck if I didn’t pay somebody for almost a year. The Family court Judge seemed very efficient at the time of the hearings for our case, I suppose he is just as efficient in others. So my assumption is he has too much work to do. Is there any reason a magistrate for the county cannot hear some of the interim hearings leading up to the final? Especially when things are this backed up. Is there any reason a magistrate can’t hold family court for half a day once in awhile just to cut down the workload? Is there any reason a temporary Family court judge can’t be appointed for a 90 day term or something to reduce the workload or pull a term from 1 November to 31 January when it assumed that the workload may be higher?

 

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