This is a brand new site. I bought the URL on 8 August 06 and started working on it that night. I was divorced in 2005, separated in 2004, sleeping on the couch in about 2002 or 2003 I think.
I found the divorce process to be very timely. Too timely. It shouldn't take a year. It was very illogical. If I was the one that worked and bought everything, why did I have to pay her to get my stuff back? Why is it a given (pretty much) that the women get the kids? What would I have done differently if I had planned for it a little bit?
I have had a few websites. Nothing spectacular. I still have a real job. Well when I got divorced and lost the sites I had, I figured I would someday start over. I did get to keep most of the stuff I had to sell on the web in the divorce. Screwed up thing was, after I had already bought all that stuff once, I had to buy it back from my exwife again. So I started with my sales website, WV WorldWideWeb Sales. Please visit it and help me recoup some of the money I lost buying the stuff twice. But the process getting divorced was such a farce I had to get a site up to devote to this broken system. I thought about a blog. But I want to have total control over the content here. I can control it, because I am the one that posts it. It's more work, but I don't intend to give the status quo a forum. They can start a site of their own if they want to.
My intent is to give information regarding the process in West Virginia. I'm sure the same problems are found most anywhere, but for now I have to concentrate on here. I can't give advice. I don't profess to be qualified to give advice, but if you are reading this, the thought has crossed your mind. GET OUT!!! It will happen sooner or later. That isn't advice. It's a prediction based on the statistics. I am open enough to listen to the other side. I even like to argue. However, I choose to promote change to this broken system of income for lying cheating exspouses and that's what I'm going to do.
I was married a long time.
By the time my divorce was final, I had been married almost 16 years. I can't say that it was a pleasant experience but most of it was. I
have 2 wonderful kids. They are still my life.
I can't go into too many gory details right now, to protect the kids. But my ex was less than faithful. Not just once either.
I work for the government.
I work for the Army. I travel a lot. So it seems, when I was out of town doing my part to help defend the country, she was at home having
wild parties. While I was at basic training, just after our son was born, she actually moved another man into the house. I know. I should
have learned back then. While I was home from basic for christmas that year I realized this guy was living in MY house. I threw him out
and told them both that it would not continue when I went back to training. I know. Not so smart, huh? Well I made it. Came back home.. to
a warm welcome right? Nope. You guessed it. He was living there again.
I went immediately to Legal Aid. (I didn't have money for a real lawyer. That's an important point to remember later.) They informed me
there was nothing they could do as they probably knew things about her I didn't and because of that couldn't help me. (Boy that was
good to hear.) I tried a couple lawyers. No money, no help. So I went back home and a huge fight started. It resolved itself, just as
countless others would for the next 12 or so years.
Long rocky road.
That wasn't the last time and its hard to tell if it was the first. It doesn't matter now that she wasn't faithful. What matters now is
trying to give folks a recourse when this happens to them. Before I joined the Army, she took our daughter and got on a bus once and went
to her mother's in Florida.
She filed 2 domestic petitions against me. For those who don't know what a domestic petition is, let me explain. In West Virginia, a woman,
or I'm guessing a man could also do it, can go to the family court and file paperwork against her spouse/roommate/whatever that says,
basicly she is afraid of something and the sheriff is compelled to come and remove the other party from the home. No warning.. no proof..
no going back and getting your clothes.. nothing. Well the first one was heard before a magistrate instead of a family law master. She broke
down during the hearing and we ended up going to counseling for I don't remember how long. The second one she filed because she "was afraid
I was going to take the kids and leave." Now mind you, I never took the kids anywhere she didn't let me. I'm sure this thing was set up for a
reason. I'm sure there are folks who need it. But if the system is being abused as it was in my case, it needs to be looked at.
Go onto History Page 2.